Advice For The Masses

April 13, 2013

thehiddentriforce — Sat, 13 Apr 2013 08:00:55 -0400

What should I do when someone that I thought was utterly amazing turned out to be a terrible person? Has this ever happened to you?

thehiddentriforce — Mon, 08 Apr 2013 00:50:18 -0400

Well that kind of thing really depends on what made them suddenly a terrible person. Are they your friend, or family, or were you dating? Did they betray you? Were they cheating on you, and you recently found out? Or did you just find out something about them that made them extremely undesirable?

Each of these things can come with their own implications, but regardless, generally when a person has a negative effect on your life, you should do well to remove them from it. I actually have experienced this most recently, now that you mention it, with said person having a very negative, draining effect on my psyche. Hopefully you handle it better than I did, and it works out for you in the end.

Good luck!

-John

It's weird that you have an advice blog but you're terrible at giving advice, and cannot handle absolutely any situation with common sense.

thehiddentriforce — Mon, 08 Apr 2013 00:35:00 -0400

Please direct any and all irrelevant messages to my main blog, located here.

-John

I want to join the marines after high school but I haven't told my parents and they are really pushing me to go to an expensive college we can barely afford. How do I tell them that I want to enlist without pissing them off a whole lot?

thehiddentriforce — Sun, 07 Apr 2013 12:54:27 -0400

Well depending on how locked in to the idea of you going to college, they may get a little upset regardless. But depending on what you want to do, there’s a couple ways to go about it.

Firstly, you could always compromise. You could always join an ROTC program at a college and try to get a scholarship for it, and join the Marines upon graduation. That would technically satisfy both parties, unless of course you absolutely don’t want to go to college at all/are opposed to being an officer.

Secondly, you could try explaining to them why joining the military is a good thing, and how it can benefit your future. If you’re not sure here, do some online research or contact a local recruiter for tips.

Thirdly, and this one I recommend, try to get your parents to take you to said local recruiter in person. Since it’s their job to get people interested in joining, I’m more than sure they can help sway any concerns your parents may have in you joining the Marines (aka risk of harm, mental disorders, lack of future that a degree would provide).

Hopefully one of these courses of action help you succeed in your goal to join the Marines. However, if your parents are still rigid about it, just remember: it’s not their life to live, it’s yours. At the end of the day, you can do what you wish; it only makes it easier to have your parents’ blessing first.

Good luck, and Semper Fi!

-John

i hate when my parents are filing taxes, because they always get mad. Whenever they see a drop in the money they could be getting back, or just having to pay more taxes because of unexpected income from stocks, they get mad and then fight. Sometimes, they would get mad at each other, but i don't like that, so i butt in and then they get mad at me. It goes from i can just go to the fridge and get soda to they get mad at my grades when i try to get water. How can i stop this or fix it better?

thehiddentriforce — Sat, 06 Apr 2013 21:15:39 -0400

Hmm. Well, since this isn’t a problem caused or perpetuated by you, there isn’t much you can do with yourself.

What you can do, however, is try to talk to your parents about their fighting/outbursts? If you do that though, try to bring it up when nobody is upset or grumpy, you don’t want them to get riled up beforehand. The idea would be to have a rational discussion. From there, just share how you feel about the problem, explain to them how it makes you feel, and try to talk to them about ways that you all can work on handling stress better as a family.

I personally have an anger problem that I’m trying to work on, and I find it difficult to be rational when I’m irritated. Just realize that your parents don’t mean to be hurtful or rude when they’re mad, it’s the anger talking.

I hope this helps!

-John

questioned-and-broken: Please reblog if it is alright to add your url to a tab called “People You...

thehiddentriforce — Wed, 17 Oct 2012 00:58:47 -0400

questioned-and-broken:

Please reblog if it is alright to add your url to a tab called “People You Can Talk To”.

Photo

thehiddentriforce — Sun, 09 Sep 2012 02:35:51 -0400

Photo

thehiddentriforce — Wed, 01 Aug 2012 07:53:25 -0400

Come visit my advice blog if something's troubling you! Anon is on!

thehiddentriforce — Thu, 19 Jul 2012 07:45:38 -0400

Come visit my advice blog if something's troubling you! Anon is on!

Photo

thehiddentriforce — Fri, 06 Jul 2012 13:53:01 -0400

It's Tuesday, come visit my advice blog if something's troubling you!

thehiddentriforce — Tue, 19 Jun 2012 16:54:57 -0400

It's Tuesday, come visit my advice blog if something's troubling you!

Wow you are brave putting your number there. I commend you for not only this idea and concept but following through to that degree? Do people hassle you on your phone? I hope not. I just found this blog and wow I really think you're an awesome guy! Keep up restoring my faith in humanity.

thehiddentriforce — Tue, 12 Jun 2012 03:45:31 -0400

No, I’ve never gotten anything like that to my knowledge. I do randomly get telemarketers, but I assume that’s random and have nothing to do with it. Thanks though!

-John

Things have been looking up for the first time in a while. I just wanted you to know that I took your advice/help and I really appreciate what you do.

Sat, 09 Jun 2012 00:24:39 -0400

I’m glad I could help. That’s what I’m here for. :)

-John

I used to self harm a lot, on and off for most of my teen life, I got better and worse depending on what was going on. I have marks all over my arms that people ask me about and I give some lame answer and they usually just let it go. I stopped actually breaking skin for a couple reasons, one being threatened with hospitalization, and another being that since I'm in a serious relationship there's nowhere to hide them.

thehiddentriforce — Thu, 07 Jun 2012 01:45:15 -0400

1/2

I've been pretty good about it but when things start to get out of my control I tend to bruise myself. They're easier to explain, but I've been in a streak of bad times and I went overboard. I don't know what I expect to hear I just wanted to tell someone that won't put me in a psych ward. I've got a chronic case of feeling like a shitty person and a shitty girlfriend and a shitty friend and I'm just so tired.

thehiddentriforce — Thu, 07 Jun 2012 01:45:00 -0400

2/2

Okay, well it’s great that you’re venting, but there’s a few things I just want to say about this.

First, I’m glad you stopped cutting, that can be very dangerous. However, the bruising shouldn’t be used as an alternative. Try to find something else as a medium to vent your pain. Something less destructive.

Secondly, you have to realize that you’re really not a terrible person. There only thing wrong with you is that you think there’s something wrong with you. I’m quite certain that your boyfriend is very appreciative of you, even though it may seem like he takes you for granted sometimes, that’s just a thing guys (and girls) do, and you just have to deal with it.

And I’m assuming if you think you’re a shitty friend, that must mean you have friends that you think you are shitty too. Well I’m pretty sure if you were that bad of a friend, you wouldn’t have any friends. And even if you have only a few, or none at all, that doesn’t necessarily mean you are a bad friend either.

Sometimes you just need to look a bit more objectively at yourself, and try to see more of the good and less of the bad. Because I’m certain you’re exaggerating the negative side of you, and the positive is just sitting there waiting to be recognized.

Trust me, you’re a good person.

-John

It's Tuesday, come visit my advice blog if something's troubling you!

thehiddentriforce — Tue, 29 May 2012 21:01:05 -0400

It's Tuesday, come visit my advice blog if something's troubling you!

thehiddentriforce — Tue, 22 May 2012 18:10:06 -0400

It's Tuesday, come visit my advice blog if something's troubling you!

Come visit my advice blog if something's troubling you! Anon is on!

thehiddentriforce — Mon, 21 May 2012 01:47:46 -0400

Come visit my advice blog if something's troubling you! Anon is on!

I started self harm and then stopped not long after, when my roommate convinced me that suicide and hurting myself wasn't the answer. But now, I keep feeling like it is the only answer because I keep messing up everything. I don't know what to do anymore. I have a suicide plan if things don't go the way I want to let me graduate before I break. I don't want to commit suicide, but at the same time, I do. It is on my mind every day, several times a day. My panic attacks are getting worse... (2/3)

thehiddentriforce — Wed, 21 Mar 2012 05:35:10 -0400

(2/2)

That sounds really rough. Trust me when I say I have some idea of where you’re coming from. What it seems to me is that your friends or parents may be disappointed in you, but if they are, it’s only because they know how great you are, and how great you can be. You say you keep messing up everything. You’re not alone on that one, not by a long shot. So nobody’s going to hate you for making mistakes, because everyone makes them. It seems you’re the only one who hates you for your blunders. That’s what needs to change. Accept the fact that you’re screwing up, and figure out a way to overcome those mistakes and do better. Even if it’s not a lot better, or some tremendous change. Just a small step first, that will lead to more progress.

Suicide is the cowards way out. You are not a coward. You’ve already made the first step by talking about it. Stay strong my friend.

-John

Lately, things haven't been going well. I moved out of an abusive household and am now living on my own for the first time... I still have parental support, but I've never had it emotionally or mentally. I'm going into my 5th year of college and will be a 6th year before I can graduate, but all I've been told is that I'm not getting out fast enough, that I'm not doing a good enough job. My friends try to help me, but I feel like they can't understand because they have supportive families. (1/3)

thehiddentriforce — Wed, 21 Mar 2012 05:34:58 -0400

(1/2. Not sure if the 3rd one disappeared or what, but I only got 2.)